tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-40311984924950649982024-03-14T02:55:15.853-07:00Sue Scheff on Teen GangsAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.comBlogger78125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4031198492495064998.post-8750485496061284232009-04-27T08:33:00.001-07:002009-04-27T08:36:50.742-07:00Sue Scheff: Teen Cliques<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhoBcY9QPPUCdsxKYEk1KsqOxfnCiI9-y-JzgQjM15inJslPCWuWWvUM2Mc60LWT4g9sRttWE3OuoX1i_uIPvzgp4JoG-VySx6ympJu8DY-JrfNFG7M4DSrcnmtoDEKfAdI3f2ao0aO0sEw/s1600-h/teenhealth.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5329394908924549250" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 96px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 65px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhoBcY9QPPUCdsxKYEk1KsqOxfnCiI9-y-JzgQjM15inJslPCWuWWvUM2Mc60LWT4g9sRttWE3OuoX1i_uIPvzgp4JoG-VySx6ympJu8DY-JrfNFG7M4DSrcnmtoDEKfAdI3f2ao0aO0sEw/s200/teenhealth.jpg" border="0" /></a>
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<br />Source: <strong><a href="http://teenshealth.org/">TeensHealth</a></strong>
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<br />Your 10-year-old daughter comes home crying because the girls she's been friends with are suddenly leaving her out and spreading rumors about her. She's confused because it seemed to happen out of the blue. She doesn't know what she did wrong and is nervous about returning to school, unsure if she has any friends.
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<br />Given how prevalent cliques are throughout middle and high school, at some point your child is likely to face the prospect of being in one or being excluded from them. There's little you can do to shield kids from cliques, but plenty you can do to help them maintain confidence and self-respect while negotiating cliques and understanding what true friendship is all about.
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<br /></strong>Friendship is an important part of kids' development. Having friends helps them be independent beyond the family and prepares them for the mutual, trusting relationships we hope they'll establish as adults.
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<br />Groups of friends are different from cliques in some important ways. Friendships grow out of shared interests, sports, activities, classes, neighborhoods, or even family connections. In groups of friends, members are free to socialize and hang out with others outside the group without worrying about being cast out. They may not do everything together — and that's OK.
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<br />Cliques sometimes form around common interests, but the social dynamics are very different. Cliques are usually tightly controlled by leaders who decide who is "in" and who is "out." The kids in the clique do most things together. Someone who has a friend outside the clique may face rejection or ridicule.
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<br />Members of the clique usually follow the leader's rules, whether it's wearing particular clothes or doing certain activities. Cliques usually involve lots of rules — implied and clearly stated — and intense pressure to follow them. Kids in cliques often worry about whether they'll continue to be popular or whether they'll be dropped for doing or saying the wrong thing or for not dressing in a certain way. This can create a lot of pressure, particularly for girls, who might be driven to extreme dieting and eating disorders or even to ask for plastic surgery. Others may be pressured to take risks like steal, pull pranks, or bully other kids in order to stay in the clique.
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<br />Read more: <a href="http://teenshealth.org/parent/emotions/behavior/cliques.html">http://teenshealth.org/parent/emotions/behavior/cliques.html</a>
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<br />Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4031198492495064998.post-70220644616606747082009-03-30T06:37:00.000-07:002009-03-30T06:40:36.442-07:00Sue Scheff: Teens and Weapons in School<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiCBz3x6NN0s-S6474ubzSfGKGgnS-zvZ7xB0-wiiYXJsmuuKbqe4jncvJolHCXF_G26YW3y8n2dNUc9pl96CKnfiHHQOtXWeDW_NtXzf77iVqoTO0QRVIzZ71g-WTG5UoYSDTZOTKgurtw/s1600-h/teenvio.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5318975139300919282" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 120px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 90px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiCBz3x6NN0s-S6474ubzSfGKGgnS-zvZ7xB0-wiiYXJsmuuKbqe4jncvJolHCXF_G26YW3y8n2dNUc9pl96CKnfiHHQOtXWeDW_NtXzf77iVqoTO0QRVIzZ71g-WTG5UoYSDTZOTKgurtw/s200/teenvio.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div>Source: <strong><a href="http://kidshealth.org/teen/question/get_help/weapon_school.html">TeensHealth</a></strong></div><br /><div></div><br /><div>Why do kids bring guns, knives, or other weapons to school? Some are just showing off, others feel that they need a weapon to protect themselves, and some are actively looking to threaten or harm others. Whatever the reason, though, no one should be bringing a weapon to school.<br /><br />If you suspect that someone has a weapon or is threatening someone else's life, the best thing to do is to speak up. But how can you do that? If you find out that someone at school has a weapon, here are some tips for handling the situation.<br /><br />Seek safety. If you see someone with a weapon, walk the other way. Remove yourself from the situation as quickly and quietly as possible.<br /><br />Report the situation. Notify an adult you trust immediately. Find someone you can talk to, such as a school counselor, principal, teacher, coach, or parent. These people should know how to handle the situation appropriately, and they can keep your name confidential. Tell them exactly what you saw, what type of weapon it was (a knife, a gun, etc.), where the incident happened, and who was involved. Tell them about the situation — such as whether the weapon was being shown off or used to threaten another student.<br /><br />If you don't trust an adult or can't find someone you believe will protect your identity, make an anonymous phone call to your school office and report the incident. You can also call 911 and ask them to keep your identity confidential.<br /><br />Write it down. Keep a written record of everything you can remember about the incident, including the people involved, the type of weapon, the date and time it happened, and where it happened. You should also record whether the incident was reported and, if so, to whom. Writing this information down while it's still fresh in your mind will help you remember details if you're asked about it later.<br /><br />The Warning Signs of Violence<br />Violence can happen even when a kid doesn't have a weapon. It's important to remember that violence comes in many different forms. It can be physical, like pushing, punching, or fighting with someone. Violence can also be psychological and may include name-calling, harassment, taunting, and other forms of bullying. People who are more likely to become violent may show some of these warning signs:<br /><br />cruelty to pets and other animals<br />talking about weapons and violence<br />fascination with violent video games, television, and movies<br />threatening or bullying others<br />isolation from family and friends<br />Of course, these signs don't necessarily mean that a person will become violent or bring a weapon to school. Still, you should take all signs and threats seriously, and share your concerns with a responsible adult early on. Speaking up about violence and weapons in school not only protects you, but your friends and classmates, too. </div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4031198492495064998.post-21448809440971091902009-03-10T05:24:00.001-07:002009-03-10T05:25:10.825-07:00Parents Universal Resource Experts - Sue Scheff - Stop Bullying<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh9fbBngQDYfBVBnqJ9TDQNs-YqILo2mmj6fPeqCzyB7B0kZX6qRhA7zY1qaPGMfZKhEhKgrdHreVF0O8RUgwUIjIG_PoGEbd9V4d7DprHT6tOpAzT3wEQrHjBFdTH66o0vNpivlotYEKDh/s1600-h/stopbully.gif"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5311533953314209010" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 200px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 85px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh9fbBngQDYfBVBnqJ9TDQNs-YqILo2mmj6fPeqCzyB7B0kZX6qRhA7zY1qaPGMfZKhEhKgrdHreVF0O8RUgwUIjIG_PoGEbd9V4d7DprHT6tOpAzT3wEQrHjBFdTH66o0vNpivlotYEKDh/s200/stopbully.gif" border="0" /></a><br /><div>Kids today, both teens and pre-teens, can be extremely mean and cause emotional issues to their target. What can parents do? Read more about how you can help stop bullying.</div><br /><div><br />Source: <a href="http://stopbullyingnow.hrsa.gov/index.asp?area=main">Stop Bullying Now</a>!</div><br /><div><br /><strong>What Can Adults Do?</strong></div><br /><div><br />Welcome to the Take a Stand. Lend a Hand. Stop Bullying Now! adult pages. As an adult, one of best ways you can help stop or prevent bullying is to be educated about, and sensitive to, the issue. Bullying is NOT a rite of passage - an undesirable, but sometimes unavoidable, reality of growing up. Rather, bullying is a serious public health issue that affects countless young people everyday. Further, research shows that the effects of bullying can last well into adulthood. Whether you are a concerned parent, an educator or school employee, a health and safety professional, or someone else who works with children, <a href="http://www.suescheffblog.com/wp-admin/indexAdult.asp?Area=howyoucanhelp">there are many things you can do to help</a>.</div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4031198492495064998.post-85420808146174835172009-02-22T07:00:00.001-08:002009-02-22T07:01:30.207-08:00Sue Scheff: Bullying Webinar - by Education.com<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjEUPu0u74K3WyiNTpYbKhZouv0G_lJNT-W2BNAhFgo7DzXODPp4N8knzf0A3_PsqH5UIZLIDrMyso3RNYdfrvfw2RzJTzBgoJI9AhD6_NreX4g7YWvwqFjNWBabTTicdsrszQzcihU9o_0/s1600-h/educationcom.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5305636831194725586" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 200px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 83px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjEUPu0u74K3WyiNTpYbKhZouv0G_lJNT-W2BNAhFgo7DzXODPp4N8knzf0A3_PsqH5UIZLIDrMyso3RNYdfrvfw2RzJTzBgoJI9AhD6_NreX4g7YWvwqFjNWBabTTicdsrszQzcihU9o_0/s200/educationcom.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div><strong>Bullying is part of your child’s life – find out how to reduce it in your neighborhood, at school, and online.</strong></div><br /><div><br /><a href="http://education.com/">Education.com</a> and the American Association of School Administrators (AASA) invite all parents to participate in a powerful and <a href="https://www1.gotomeeting.com/register/170177164">free web seminar </a>that will reveal common myths surrounding bullying, the real facts, and actions parents can take to reduce bullying. The web seminar will be delivered by renowned bullying expert Dr. Shelly Hymel, PhD who will present a highly interactive session with plenty of time devoted to answering participants’ questions. Don’t miss this event – chances are your child is experiencing bullying. This is your chance to find out how you can help.</div><br /><div><br />When: Wednesday, February 25, 2009 6:00 PM - 7:00 PM PST</div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4031198492495064998.post-15349062716775953322009-02-08T10:54:00.000-08:002009-02-08T10:55:52.324-08:00Sue Scheff - Teen Help - Teen Intervention<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiwINu6WBlK901_iTvXmtG7XMyoZy4GD1bnhfeDZvIhrVnTaiDp4VykU_Nn9Hvcw609hqS_5K_VVzvcjAVNEPYeo2IgDKyXniIxfQ2GQUMHpoc45nOj1IhhHu4y8xgl2KU-nooRA87R5uDN/s1600-h/UISlogo.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5300502073793996914" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 135px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiwINu6WBlK901_iTvXmtG7XMyoZy4GD1bnhfeDZvIhrVnTaiDp4VykU_Nn9Hvcw609hqS_5K_VVzvcjAVNEPYeo2IgDKyXniIxfQ2GQUMHpoc45nOj1IhhHu4y8xgl2KU-nooRA87R5uDN/s320/UISlogo.JPG" border="0" /></a><br /><div>Are you struggling with debating whether you need to look for outside help with your troubled teenager?<br /><br />Are you ready to make some very difficult decisions? Are you at your wit's end?<br /><br />Do you believe you need teen intervention from outside resources? Struggling financially and emotionally with this decision?<br /><br />Are you willing to share your story on TV? This is not about exploiting your family, but helping others that are silently suffering and not realizing they are not alone as well as giving your teen a second opportunity at a bright future. Most remember Brat Camp - this is a bit different. Starting with educating parents about the first steps in getting your teen help - determination and transportation.<br /><br />If you are interested in participating, read below and contact Bud and Evan directly.<br /><br /><br />Brentwood Communications International is an award-winning television production company in Los Angeles, California. We have recently begun work on a new television series about the real life work of interventionist / transporter Evan James Malmuth of Universal Intervention Services (“UIS”).<br /><br />If you would be willing to allow us to film your case / intervention for the television series, Evan Malmuth and Universal Intervention Services will provide intervention / transportation services at no charge to you. In addition, we will negotiate at least one month of treatment services at a qualified treatment center at no charge with the purchase of at least two additional months of treatment at pre-negotiated discount rates. At the current rate of these services, this represents thousands of dollars in savings.<br /><br />BCII and Evan Malmuth are not interested in making exploitative reality television. We are committed to helping you and your family and improving lives through the media.<br /><br />If you are interested in participating in the show and using the services of Evan Malmuth and UIS, please contact us right away. Every day counts.<br /><br />Email: <a href="mailto:tvhelp@bciitv.com">tvhelp@bciitv.com</a><br /><br />Phone: 818-333-3685<br /><br />With best regards,<br /><br />Bud Brutsman, CEO - Brentwood Communication Intl., Inc.<br /><br /><br />Evan James Malmuth, CEO - Universal Intervention Services<br /><br /><br />Brentwood Communications International, Inc.<br />3500 N. San Fernando Blvd., Burbank, CA 91505 </div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4031198492495064998.post-50073727839476029042009-01-25T05:45:00.001-08:002009-01-25T05:46:16.844-08:00Sue Scheff - Teen Drug Prevention<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi6ODHukm67RegD7KmdNlYG7obd65EziXWTppF3y_L1PVktO38Zrt7kJsmzcMKZWe2yNFRLHPX_R0i1UuvL9P7GOUIrWoXEUg4LAklemDrzM1QB0CWTQQJXzixscvqiSrnFjVO5SBciX3gc/s1600-h/DARE.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5295227121481554050" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 32px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi6ODHukm67RegD7KmdNlYG7obd65EziXWTppF3y_L1PVktO38Zrt7kJsmzcMKZWe2yNFRLHPX_R0i1UuvL9P7GOUIrWoXEUg4LAklemDrzM1QB0CWTQQJXzixscvqiSrnFjVO5SBciX3gc/s320/DARE.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div><a href="http://www.dare-america.com/home/default.asp">D.A.R.E. - Drug Abuse Resistance Education</a> has been known for many years and has helped been part of many schools in helping children learn the dangers of <a href="http://susanscheff.org/">drug abuse</a>. As a parent, take some time to review their newly updated information and website. It is important that parents and educators work together to help prevent drug use.</div><br /><div><br />Source: <a href="http://www.dare-america.com/home/default.asp">D.A.R.E. Official Website</a></div><br /><div><br />This year millions of school children around the world will benefit from <a href="http://www.dare-america.com/home/about_dare.asp">D.A.R.E. (Drug Abuse Resistance Education), </a>the highly acclaimed program that gives kids the skills they need to avoid involvement in drugs, <a href="http://suescheff.info/">gangs</a>, and <a href="http://sueschefftruth.net/">violence</a>.</div><br /><div><br />D.A.R.E. was founded in 1983 in Los Angeles and has proven so successful that it is now being implemented in 75 percent of our nation’s school districts and in more than 43 countries around the world.</div><br /><div><br /><a href="http://www.dare-america.com/home/about_dare.asp">D.A.R.E</a>. is a police officer-led series of classroom lessons that teaches children from kindergarten through 12th grade how to resist peer pressure and live productive drug and violence-free lives.</div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4031198492495064998.post-89374291992177088202009-01-04T06:52:00.001-08:002009-01-04T06:53:05.614-08:00Parents Universal Resource Experts - Sue Scheff - Teen Gangs and Inhalants<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh78hbSM357a3ZTqQo485odz39Zg4SEdS6JTZ-GchyT3hxXKYcvF5Ozwq9sREQ6SXBeS_5xaHLoh3rophSCbh_f0FTL79OsOWfKaGuRQkuNzu6kcJcedMFUjAfGt3FY4p1uw9psifhYGfvr/s1600-h/inhalant3.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5287451617058090562" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 127px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 95px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh78hbSM357a3ZTqQo485odz39Zg4SEdS6JTZ-GchyT3hxXKYcvF5Ozwq9sREQ6SXBeS_5xaHLoh3rophSCbh_f0FTL79OsOWfKaGuRQkuNzu6kcJcedMFUjAfGt3FY4p1uw9psifhYGfvr/s200/inhalant3.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div>As the new year has started, parents need to become more educated and informed about today's teens and the issues they face.</div><br /><div><br />Many parents know about <a href="http://suescheffblog.com/2008/12/sue-scheff-drug-free-america/">substance abuse</a>, and teach our kids to say no to drugs - but do you know about <a href="http://suescheffblog.com/2008/11/sue-scheff-inhalant-abuse-and-teens-substance-abuse/">Inhalants</a>? Ordinary household items that can be lethal to teens looking for a quick and inexpensive high? More importantly, sometimes deadly high.</div><br /><div><br />Parent learn more about <a href="http://inhalant.org/">Inhalant Abuse</a>.</div><br /><div><br />Here is a great "<a href="http://www.inhalant.org/parents/tips.php">talking tips</a>" page from The Alliance for Consumer Education (ACE) - take the time to learn more today. You could save a child's life. </div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4031198492495064998.post-53659352478598443072008-12-08T06:27:00.000-08:002008-12-08T06:30:34.029-08:00Sue Scheff - Parenting Struggling Teens<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiykKO7zs-44Ll9GbYEjYpjizWGoalPjR3I6ICT04EIdnaKovsf5w0Ri9AbD5d_IeHiovxFgIrplPOyQNEDL-8XXfDpRWAt-1ZUsE0XdbTUmrKHwCX1N-_oIdhyW2YX3PcB1PksWsPiRLa5/s1600-h/teenanger.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5277426418499275282" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 280px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 210px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiykKO7zs-44Ll9GbYEjYpjizWGoalPjR3I6ICT04EIdnaKovsf5w0Ri9AbD5d_IeHiovxFgIrplPOyQNEDL-8XXfDpRWAt-1ZUsE0XdbTUmrKHwCX1N-_oIdhyW2YX3PcB1PksWsPiRLa5/s320/teenanger.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div>It stems back to “children need to have their self-esteem built up to make good decisions.” Today most families are either single parent or both parents are working full time. This is not the fault of the teen, nor is it the fault of the parents. It is today’s world and we must try to find the middle. Troubled teens, rebellious teens, angry teens, problem teens, difficult teens, <a href="http://suescheffblog.com/2008/11/sue-scheff-teen-peer-pressure/">peer pressure,</a> depressed teens; unfortunately are part of the society of adolescents today.Communication is always the first to go when people get busy. We have seen this over and over again. We have also experienced it and feel that our children shut us out; this can lead to difficult teens and teens with problems. Although we are tired and exhausted, along with the stress of today’s life, we need to stop and take a moment for our kids.</div><br /><div><br />Talk and LISTEN to them. Ask lots of questions, get to know their friends and their friend’s parents, take part in their interests, be supportive if they are having a hard time, even if you can’t understand it; be there for them.This all sounds so easy and so simple, but take it from parents that have walked this path, it is not easy. When a parent works a full day, has stress from the job along with household chores, not to mention the bills, it is hard to find that moment. We are all guilty of neglect at one time or another after all, we are only human and can only do so much. We feel the exhaustion mounting watching our teens grow more out of control, yet we are too tired to address it.</div><br /><div><br />Out of control teens can completely disrupt a family and cause marriages to break up as well as emotional breakdowns.We know many feel it is just a stage, and with some, it may be. However most times it does escalate to where we are today. Researching for help; <a href="http://helpyourteens.com/">Parents’ Universal Resource Experts</a> is here for you, as we have been where you are today.</div><br /><div><br />Do you have a difficult teen, struggling teen, defiant teen, out of control teen, rebellious teen, angry teen, <a href="http://suescheff.org/">depressed teen</a>? Do you feel hopeless, at your <a href="http://suescheffblog.com/2008/12/wits-end-advice-and-resources-for-saving-your-out-of-control-teen-by-sue-scheff/">wits end</a>?</div><br /><div><br />Visit <a href="http://www.helpyourteens.com/">http://www.helpyourteens.com/</a>.</div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4031198492495064998.post-79831094289181955912008-11-14T10:51:00.001-08:002008-11-14T10:52:26.493-08:00Parents Universal Resource Experts - Sue Scheff - Teen Truancy<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjsNKVsxXsWcao0IZueulpVoLlLdF6GONuQnSZXyNqAb_SVpbD4hKyn7_qDkdJZzm0NAncODhctc5SsHdVT7rQC3jtyQmV2ssTB7DvOH4HF3rVa0zd1FzP4OdIOP85QzVHgbLrYEzKTJ9K7/s1600-h/teentruancy.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5268587886035445154" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 113px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 84px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjsNKVsxXsWcao0IZueulpVoLlLdF6GONuQnSZXyNqAb_SVpbD4hKyn7_qDkdJZzm0NAncODhctc5SsHdVT7rQC3jtyQmV2ssTB7DvOH4HF3rVa0zd1FzP4OdIOP85QzVHgbLrYEzKTJ9K7/s320/teentruancy.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div>Truancy is a term used to describe any intentional unauthorized absence from compulsory schooling. Children in America today lose over five million days of their education each year through truancy. Often times they do this without the knowledge of their parents or school officials. In common usage the term typically refers to absences caused by students of their own free will, and usually does not refer to legitimate "excused" absences, such as ones related to a medical condition. It may also refer to students who attend school but do not go to classes. Because of this confusion many schools have their own definitions, and as such the exact meaning of the term itself will differ from school to school and district to district. In order to avoid or diminish confusion, many schools explicitly define the term and their particular usage thereof in the school's handbook of policies and procedures. </div><br /><div></div><br /><div>In many instances truancy is the term referring to an absence associated with the most brazen student irresponsibility and results in the greatest consequences.Many educators view truancy as something much more far reaching than the immediate consequence that missed schooling has on a student's education. Truancy may indicate more deeply embedded problems with the student, the education they are receiving, or both. Because of its traditional association with juvenile delinquency, truancy in some schools may result in an ineligibility to graduate or to receive credit for class attended, until the time lost to truancy is made up through a combination of detention, fines, or summer school. This can be especially troubling for a child, as failing school can lead to social impairment if the child is held back, economic impact if the child drops out or cannot continue his or her education, and emotional impact as the cycle of failure diminishes the adolescent's self-esteem.<br /><a href="http://susanscheff.net/">Learn more - click here.</a></div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4031198492495064998.post-76457009255421017442008-10-31T15:29:00.001-07:002008-10-31T15:31:00.645-07:00Sue Scheff: Gay Harassment<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh718rHTBPtNJ-VNhOchjvAGektJy62JiWRZTvqVVlvI7vBpwICu3x7JYmGuxus6g8e2i58pdy3CybPHlMYq8yvpFCYYUqMe7OkuL_zSCT6aEY9ljzJ1Y2TZNo8GrGU6caoWUV2X0twjd_o/s1600-h/gayteen.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5263448780974048930" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 67px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 50px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh718rHTBPtNJ-VNhOchjvAGektJy62JiWRZTvqVVlvI7vBpwICu3x7JYmGuxus6g8e2i58pdy3CybPHlMYq8yvpFCYYUqMe7OkuL_zSCT6aEY9ljzJ1Y2TZNo8GrGU6caoWUV2X0twjd_o/s320/gayteen.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div>Source: <a href="http://connectwithkids.com/">Connect with Kids</a></div><div></div><div>“People would push me into lockers or trip me in the hallways or throw rocks at me inside the school or throw trash at me.”<br /><br />– Josh, 15 years old<br /><br />Fifteen-year-old Josh is gay. He’s so afraid of bullies that he’s asked us not to show his face or reveal his full name.<br /><br />“People would push me into lockers or trip me in the hallways or throw rocks at me inside the school or throw trash at me,” he recalls.<br /><br />Josh is not alone. According to a report from the Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network (GLSEN), nine out of 10 gay teenagers are harassed at school.<br /><br />Josh was and that’s why he decided to tell his parents the truth.<br /><br />“I’m gay,” he told them. “I’m getting harassed. I’m very scared in school right now—please make it stop.”<br /><br />Marnie Lynch, Josh’s mom, says, “I don’t know that I can even describe the pain that I felt.”<br /><br />Josh’s parents felt hurt, angry and scared.<br /><br />“What my worst fear was, is that yes, he could be brutally beaten or killed because of his sexual orientation,” Lynch says.<br /><br />But experts say there are ways to prevent violence against gay and lesbian students.<br /><br />“It’s very important that all youth who are being harassed let the (school) administration know about it somehow, whether it’s through their parents or going directly to the administrator, or telling a teacher about it,” says Steve Epstein, a counselor who works with gay teens.<br /><br />Epstein says that Josh’s parents did the right thing. They demanded action from the school’s principal and soon afterwards, the bullying ended.<br /><br />“You should be able to do and be whomever you want to be,” Josh says, “and not have to endure harassment and pain and struggles from other people.”<br /><br /><strong>Tips for Parents</strong> </div><div><br />Sexual orientation in adolescents has previously been linked to increased rate of victimization. Previous studies have found that those students who identified themselves as gay, lesbian or bisexual had a disproportionate risk for problem behaviors, including suicide and victimization. A study by Penn State found that risk is even greater when those kids feel rejected at school.<br /><br />The recent survey showed that homosexual adolescents were nearly twice as likely as straight adolescents to report a history of violent attacks and witnessing violence. In addition, gay and lesbian youth were reported to be 2.5 times more likely to report that they had taken part in violence themselves. Bisexual adolescents reported no increased levels of perpetrating violence, but were more likely than heterosexual adolescents to report witnessing violence or being victimized.<br /><br />The American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry (AACAP) cautions parents that “gay and lesbian teens can become depressed, socially isolated, withdrawn from activities and friends, have trouble concentrating, and develop low self-esteem. They may also develop depression.” It is important for parents of gay and lesbian teens to understand their teen’s sexual orientation and provide support. The AACAP encourages parents and family members to seek understanding and support from organizations such as Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG).<br /><br />The American Psychological Association provides these tips for teens who fear they may be a target of violence:<br /><br /><br />Above all, be safe. Don’t spend time alone with people who show warning signs of violence, such as those with a history of frequent physical fights, and those who have announced threats or plans for hurting others.<br />Tell someone you trust and respect about your concerns and ask for help ( a family member, guidance counselor, teacher, school physiologist, coach, clergy, or friend).<br />Get someone to protect you. Do not resort to violence or use a weapon to protect yourself. </div><div><br /><strong>References</strong><br />American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry<br />American Psychological Association<br />American Public Health Association<br />Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network<br />Pediatrics<br />Penn State University </div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4031198492495064998.post-91341833090677053482008-09-29T09:33:00.000-07:002008-09-29T09:34:52.863-07:00Sue Scheff: Teen and Youth Gangs WebsiteLearn more from my updated <strong>Teen and Youth Gangs Website.</strong><br /><br /><strong><a href="http://suescheff.info/">Click here.</a></strong>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4031198492495064998.post-20068785487916659392008-09-18T14:56:00.000-07:002008-09-18T14:57:54.131-07:00Sue Scheff - Teen RunawaysTeen Runaways are on the increase. Many teens think that the grass is greener on the other side.<br /><br />They are confused and following the crowd of peers making poor choices. Teens want to escape the “rules of a household” and we as parents, become their number one enemy. They feel that they are fearless and can prove they can survive without their parents and our rules. Rules are put in place for a reason; we love our children and want them to grow up with dignity and respect we try to instill in them. Their flight plan, in some ways, is a cry for attention. Many times runaways are back home shortly, however there are other situations that can be more serious. This is not to say any child that runs away is not serious, but when this becomes a habit and is their way of rebelling, a parent needs to intervene.<br /><br />So many times we hear how “their friend’s parents” allow a much later curfew or are more lenient, and you are the worst parents in the world. This is very common and the parent feels helpless, hopeless and alone. It is all part of the manipulation the teens put us through. With their unappreciative thoughts of us, they will turn to this destructive behavior, which, at times, results in them leaving the home.<br /><br />Some teens go to a friend’s house or relative they believe they can trust and make up stories about their home life. This is very common, a parent has to suffer the pain and humiliation that it causes to compound it with the need to get your child help that they need. If you fear your child is at risk of running, the lines of communication have to be open. We understand this can be difficult, however if possible needs to be approached in a positive manner. Teen help starts with communication.<br /><br />If you feel this has escalated to where you cannot control them, it may be time for placement and possibly having your child escorted. Please know that the escorts (transports) are all licensed and very well trained in removing children from their home into safe programs. These escorts are also trained counselors that will talk to your child all the way, and your child will end his/her trip with a new friend and a better understanding of why their parents had to resort to this measure.<br /><br />Helpful Hint if you child has runaway and you are using all your local resources – offer a cash reward to their friends privately, of course promising their anonymity and hopefully someone will know your child’s whereabouts.<br /><br />Having a teen runaway is very frightening and it can bring you to your wits end. Try to remain positive and hopeful and do all you can to help understand why your child is acting out this way. These are times when parents need to seek help for themselves. Don’t be ashamed to reach out to others. We are all about parents helping parents.<br /><br />Visit my <a href="http://sue-scheff.info/">Teen Runaway Website </a>and <a href="http://www.helpyourteens.com/">www.helpyourteens.com</a> for more information.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4031198492495064998.post-46457372922258455442008-09-11T09:34:00.000-07:002008-09-11T09:36:02.772-07:00TEEN PEER PRESSURE - SOS<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh8akSc-nNiKYEf0dgZDePyMOsSIplsulQiCO1LKNf2MDSm6sefyaU0OWHvFdq4y3OrLbJn9mF5kf3TCV2hi0Sq69Cka1UTVMNKeCZar9fj89NRSjTJ5HFdCfg24BgrKuRx_ZK8aiERsa7B/s1600-h/bookpeerstressed.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5244803272376663698" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh8akSc-nNiKYEf0dgZDePyMOsSIplsulQiCO1LKNf2MDSm6sefyaU0OWHvFdq4y3OrLbJn9mF5kf3TCV2hi0Sq69Cka1UTVMNKeCZar9fj89NRSjTJ5HFdCfg24BgrKuRx_ZK8aiERsa7B/s320/bookpeerstressed.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div>I was just recommended this dynamic book by Dr. Lisa Medoff and can’t wait to read it! As a Parent Advocate, this can be one of the most trying times for parents as school is opening. Today with issues surrounding social networking, compounded with peer pressure - “Stressed Out Students” are at risk of making not so good choices.<br /><br />Here is the recent Press Release about “SOS” - which can be purchased on Amazon today!<br /><br /><strong>SOS: STRESSED OUT STUDENT’S<br /></strong><br />GUIDE TO HANDLING PEER PRESSURE<br /><br /><br /><br />Lisa Medoff, PhD<br /><br /><br /><br />In a society overloaded with media that glamorizes sex, drinking, and drugs, and where any outrageous, dangerous, humiliating thing a person does can be caught on a cell phone and posted on the internet for all to see, teens are feeling forced to succumb to peer pressure like never before. As peers become the pseudo “paparazzi,” teens need somewhere to turn for answers that give them the strength to reject the constant pressure to “fit in.”<br /><br /><br /><br />Now Kaplan - widely respected for helping millions of students prepare for every aspect of academic life - steps outside the classroom to guide teens, parents, and educators on the ever-increasing pressure-cooker of adolescence. Its SOS: Stressed Out Student’s Guide series offers realistic advice written by students, for students, on the topics of most concern to today’s teens. Every book in the motivational series also features advice from Education.com columnist, educator, and psychologist Lisa Medoff, PhD, who works with troubled teens and teachers in high-risk school districts.<br /><br /><br /><br />SOS: STRESSED OUT STUDENT’S GUIDE TO HANDLING PEER PRESSURE (Kaplan Publishing; September, 2008) hones in on and tackles the scourge of peer pressure and its effects on teenagers. As Dr. Medoff assures readers, “This book will help teens sort out the different influences that peer pressure is having on them. It will show them how peer pressure can manipulate them into making some very bad, life altering decisions about drugs, sex, cheating, stealing, and being cruel to others. They’ll learn to trust themselves and be proud of who they are.”<br /><br /><br /><br />Featuring frank, realistic language plus an engaging, highly illustrated layout, SOS: STRESSED OUT STUDENT’S GUIDE TO HANDLING PEER PRESSURE is designed to appeal to the modern teenager’s eye, attention span, and need for quick gratification. It is also an imperative handbook for adults who want to understand and open the lines of communication with the adolescents in their lives.<br /><br /><br /><br />Without preaching, each of the ten easy to read chapters in SOS: STRESSED OUT STUDENT’S GUIDE TO HANDLING PEER PRESSURE is packed with explanations, scenarios, stats, and fascinating facts such as:<br /><br /><br /><br />· 1 in 4 sexually active teens becomes infected with an STD each year.<br /><br />· Nationally, 6 out of 10 girls who had sex before the age of 15 report that it was involuntary.<br /><br />· Teens and juveniles make up 25% of all shoplifters, though not all steal because they want something. Many teens shoplift compulsively because of stress, anxiety, psychological problems, or abuse.<br /><br />· Teens with a history of habitually ditching school are also found to be at greater risk for involvement with gangs, drugs, alcohol, or violence.<br /><br /><br /><br />Along with SOS: Stressed Out Student’s Guide to Saying No to Cheating and SOS: Stressed Out Student’s Guide to Dealing With Tests, SOS: STRESS OUT STUDENT’S GUIDE TO HANDLING PEER PRESSURE is one of the exciting books in Kaplan’s new series SOS: Stressed Out Student’s Guides.<br /><br /><br /><br />ABOUT THE AUTHOR<br /><br /><br /><br />Lisa Medoff, PhD holds a B.A. in psychology, a Masters degree in school counseling and a PhD in child and adolescent development. She has taught courses at Stanford University, Santa Clara University, San Jose State University and DeAnza College. She has worked with all types of children including students with special needs, ADHD, learning disabilities, depression, and anxiety. Lisa Medoff, understands the needs and mind-set of modern teenagers, and has mastered the difficult task of appropriately reaching out to them at their tumultuous life stage.<br /><br /></div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4031198492495064998.post-87272545187038574672008-09-03T06:58:00.001-07:002008-09-03T07:15:48.176-07:00A Better Child.org and Peer Pressure<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj8BjE213431wjQ18dyMkGcn37bMWZ6K2LvfNrAkpE_VIhc5vPRg0vaD-qLAPAC8OPMDuuHx05f6m34njPh73Dhlv70uAEeHrjDUzXN6CQvuw09d23L12Wt2OvuO9x8C-7FloLovIsyris8/s1600-h/abetterchild.gif"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5241798372469903858" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj8BjE213431wjQ18dyMkGcn37bMWZ6K2LvfNrAkpE_VIhc5vPRg0vaD-qLAPAC8OPMDuuHx05f6m34njPh73Dhlv70uAEeHrjDUzXN6CQvuw09d23L12Wt2OvuO9x8C-7FloLovIsyris8/s320/abetterchild.gif" border="0" /></a><br /><div>Standing up to peer pressure is one of the greatest challenges that children face. Many are unable to stand up to the challenge and are led into participating in risky or even illegal activities. Help your child deal with peer pressures by doing the following: </div><br /><div><br />Read entire article here: <a href="http://www.education.com/reference/article/Ref_10_Ways_You_Can_Help/">http://www.education.com/reference/article/Ref_10_Ways_You_Can_Help/</a>#</div><br /><div><br />Also visit <a href="http://www.a-better-child.org/">http://www.a-better-child.org/</a></div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4031198492495064998.post-89540675157570131712008-08-28T14:24:00.000-07:002008-08-28T14:25:58.364-07:00Teen Peer Pressure - Parents Universal Resource Experts - Sue Scheff<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiWC9xguARq1F4wpdxeHpclZq94SMHFItxFNu92LGhLMV1ixSkP_P5W3JM2QgNl5eYY2IrzfMIIvWNwzC5hViF1fpcCteUrGvBVmZVxelfwpLr5Syu3Or00IXBzKZmx0HVvRlQNaQCvP5_-/s1600-h/teenssmoke.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5239682748078906722" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiWC9xguARq1F4wpdxeHpclZq94SMHFItxFNu92LGhLMV1ixSkP_P5W3JM2QgNl5eYY2IrzfMIIvWNwzC5hViF1fpcCteUrGvBVmZVxelfwpLr5Syu3Or00IXBzKZmx0HVvRlQNaQCvP5_-/s320/teenssmoke.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div><strong>Peer Pressure leads to “Good Teens Making Bad Choices” which is very common today.</strong> </div><br /><div><br />Teen Peer Pressure can be extremely damaging to a pre-teen or teen that is desperately trying to fit in somewhere – anywhere in their school. They are not sure what group they belong in, and those that are suffering with low self esteem can end up fitting more comfortably with the less than desirable peers. This can be the beginning of a downward spiral. When a child doesn’t have confidence of who they are or where they belong, it can lead to the place that is easiest to fit in – usually the not the best crowd. </div><br /><div><br />Keeping your child involved in activities such as sports, music and school clubs can help give them a place where they belong. We always encourage parents to find the one thing that truly interests their child, whether it is a musical instrument, swimming, golf, diving, dance, chess club, drama, etc. It is important to find out what their interests are and help them build on it. Encourage them 100%. They don’t need to be the next Tiger Woods, but they need to enjoy what they are doing and keep busy doing it. Staying busy in a constructive way is always beneficial.</div><br /><div><br />It is very common with many parents that contact us that their child has fallen into the wrong crowd and has become a follower rather than a leader. They are making bad choices, choices they know better however the fear of not fitting in with their friends sways them to make the wrong decisions. Low self esteem can attribute to this behavior, and if it has escalated to a point of dangerous situations such as legal issues, substance use, gang related activity, etc. it may be time to seek outside help. Remember, don’t be ashamed of this, it is very common today and you are not alone. So many parents believe others will think it is a reflection of their parenting skills, however with today’s society; the teen peer pressure is stronger than it ever has been. The Internet explosion combined with many teens Entitlement Issues has made today’s generation a difficult one to understand. </div><br /><div><br />It is so important to find the right fit for your child if you are seeking residential treatment. We always encourage *local adolescent counseling prior to any Residential Treatment Programs or Boarding schools, however this is not always necessary. Many parents have an instinct when their child is heading the wrong direction. It is an intuition only a parent can detect. If something doesn’t seem right, it usually isn’t. If your gut is talking to you, you may want to listen or investigate what your child is doing. Parents need to understand that teen peer pressure can influence adolescents in negative ways. Do you know who your child’s friends are?</div><br /><div><br />Visit <a href="http://www.helpyourteens.com/">http://www.helpyourteens.com/</a> for more information.</div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4031198492495064998.post-3807236040808929832008-08-20T14:15:00.001-07:002008-08-20T14:20:11.979-07:00Parents, learn more about Inhalant Abuse<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhjkVFhT7ex9DnK73q46BeraukSE8qGiAMCQ1FgYSOAOw8zminAgvZ1iWOzDeQqs2IeqaV4eOjpeDsabPkcPCC5q3kDU2rEA6VBT9wx5xlW3jjxYed00FGp0YRNpoDLDOsrr0zlGbM-BWJI/s1600-h/inhalant3.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5236711618078838034" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhjkVFhT7ex9DnK73q46BeraukSE8qGiAMCQ1FgYSOAOw8zminAgvZ1iWOzDeQqs2IeqaV4eOjpeDsabPkcPCC5q3kDU2rEA6VBT9wx5xlW3jjxYed00FGp0YRNpoDLDOsrr0zlGbM-BWJI/s320/inhalant3.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div>Inhalant abuse refers to the deliberate inhalation or sniffing of common products found in homes and communities with the purpose of "getting high." Inhalants are easily accessible, legal, everyday products. When used as intended, these products have a useful purpose in our lives and enhance the quality of life, but when intentionally misused, they can be deadly. Inhalant Abuse is a lesser recognized form of substance abuse, but it is no less dangerous. Inhalants are addictive and are considered to be "gateway" drugs because children often progress from inhalants to illegal drug and alcohol abuse. The National Institute on Drug Abuse reports that one in five American teens have used Inhalants to get high.<br /><br />Inhalation is referred to as huffing, sniffing, dusting or bagging and generally occurs through the nose or mouth. Huffing is when a chemically soaked rag is held to the face or stuffed in the mouth and the substance is inhaled. Sniffing can be done directly from containers, plastic bags, clothing or rags saturated with a substance or from the product directly. With Bagging, substances are sprayed or deposited into a plastic or paper bag and the vapors are inhaled. This method can result in suffocation because a bag is placed over the individual's head, cutting off the supply of oxygen.<br /><br />Other methods used include placing inhalants on sleeves, collars, or other items of clothing that are sniffed over a period of time. Fumes are discharged into soda cans and inhaled from the can or balloons are filled with nitrous oxide and the vapors are inhaled. Heating volatile substances and inhaling the vapors emitted is another form of inhalation. All of these methods are potentially harmful or deadly. Experts estimate that there are several hundred deaths each year from Inhalant Abuse, although under-reporting is still a problem.<br /><br />What Products Can be Abused?<br /><br />There are more than a 1,400 products which are potentially dangerous when inhaled, such as typewriter correction fluid, air conditioning coolant, gasoline, propane, felt tip markers, spray paint, air freshener, butane, cooking spray, paint, and glue. Most are common products that can be found in the home, garage, office, school or as close as the local convenience store. The best advice for consumers is to read the labels before using a product to ensure the proper method is observed. It is also recommended that parents discuss the product labels with their children at age-appropriate times. The following list represents categories of products that are commonly abused. </div><div> </div><div>Visit <a href="http://www.inhalant.org/">www.inhalant.org</a> for more information.</div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4031198492495064998.post-72667245288638782792008-08-13T08:44:00.001-07:002008-08-13T08:45:51.509-07:00Teen Cults and Gangs by Sue Scheff<strong>Teen cults claim many victims each year</strong><br /><br />Every year thousands of teens across the country become ensnared in the dangerous and misunderstood world of cults. These hazardous entities prey on the uncertainty and alienation that many teens feel and use those feelings to attract unsuspecting teens into their cult traps. As a figurehead in the world of parent teen relations, <a href="http://www.sue-scheff.net/">Sue Scheff™</a> knows the danger of cults and teenagers’ susceptibility to their temptations. Sue Scheff™ believes that like many other teen\ ailments, the best defense against the world of cults is through education.<br /><br />No teen actually joins a cult, they join a religious movement or a political organization that reaches out to the feelings of angst or isolation that many troubled teen’s experience. Over time, this group gradually reveals its true cultish nature, and before teens know it, they are trapped in a web they can’t untangle.<br /><br />With the strong rise in teen internet usage, cults have many ways to contact children and brainwash them. Sue Scheff™ knows the dark side of the internet from her experience with teenage internet addiction, and she understands it is also an avenue for cults to infiltrate teenage brains.<br /><br />Cults have long been represented in the mass media. The supporters of Reverend Jim Jones People’s Temple may be some of the most famous cult members, making global headlines when they died in the hundreds after drinking Kool-Aid laced with cyanide. Almost 300 of the dead Jones supporters were teens and young children. Heavens Gate is another well known cult, which believed ritual suicide would ensure their journey behind the Hale-Bopp comet with Jesus. Heavens Gate lived in a strict communal environment, funding their cult endeavors through web site development. Some male members of the cult even castrated themselves before all 36 committed suicide, wearing matching sweat suits and Nike tennis shoes.<br />It is clear that despite the ridiculous and bizarre nature of many cults, parents can’t ignore the power and resourcefulness of these groups. Cult ideas may seem to loony to take seriously, but they can have real power when used against troubled teenagers, the exact type of teens that Sue Scheff™ and other parent advocates have been working to keep safe.<br /><br />Cult influence should not be taken lightly, especially when living with a troubled teen. Parents may not think of cults as a problem because they don’t hear about them a lot, but that’s the key to cult success. The livelihood of teen cults relies on staying out of the public eye and in the shadows. The Heaven’s Gate and People’s Temple cults didn’t truly gain public notice until after their suicides, and by then it was too late to save their followers.<br /><br />The danger of teen cults is real, but parents can help ensure their teenagers’ safety by staying informed and communicating with their children. Sue Scheff™ presents a site with important information about different types of cults that target teens, warning signs of cult attendance, and ways to help prevent your teen from becoming involved in a cult. Knowledge and communication is always the first line of defense when helping a troubled teen.<br /><br />Visit <a href="http://www.helpyourteens.com/">www.helpyourteens.com</a> for more help and information.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4031198492495064998.post-87208379161994016542008-08-06T09:26:00.000-07:002008-08-06T09:27:29.673-07:00Teen Gangs - Learn MoreGang activity in the United States is not always the way that the media portrays it. Gang violence is not restricted to inner city settings, nor is it simply the activity of minority groups. There are gangs in cities, suburbs, and even small town America and the violence that many of these gangs encourage and participate in is costing far too many lives.<br /><br />Most gangs are a loosely organized group of individuals who control a territory. A significant portion of gang violence stems from fighting over territory, which may be used to distribute drugs. Additionally, gangs tend to denote members through a sign or color. Two of the most well known gangs in the United States are the Bloods and the Crips which use the colors red and blue respectively.<br /><br />Gangs often prey on the teenagers who wish to fit in. Being part of a gang can provide teenagers sought after friends and popularity. By joining a gang, teens have a social network already established for them with friends who are literally ready to die for them. This infrastructure can fill a void in a young person's life quickly and easily; however, it is in a negative way. The teenage years are a formative and difficult time for many people and joining a gang is a simple way to feel liked and popular. This is especially appealing for individuals with low self confidence or who feel as if they do not fit in. In dangerous neighborhoods, joining a gang can actually provide protection from other gangs, which is attractive for many people.<br /><br />Since the 1970's, gang activity has spiraled out of control. Prior to the 70's, fewer than half of the states were plagued by gang activity, but now there is not a single state that does not have to deal with youth gang activity. Violence and gang activity peaked in 1996, but has decreased overall since then. However, activity continues to increase in less urban settings and violence is continuing to become more lethal. Many people believe this is due to gangs' involvement in the increasingly lucrative drug trafficking market. This is not the case. The increase in violence seems to be stem from the availability and easy access of lethal weapons. Additionally, cars have become a more common accessory in attacks on rival gangs.<br /><br />I am <a href="http://suescheff.blogspot.com/">Sue Scheff</a>™, and my organization Parents Universal Resource Experts (P.U.R.E.™) seeks to protect America's teens. Keeping your troubled teen safe and on the right path in life can be an incredibly difficult task, but you are not the only one facing these problems, nor are you without resources. We as parents must work together to support one another and provide assistance and advice to educate and support one another through the difficult times. At P.U.R.E.™ you will find resources, including other parents who have faced the same trouble as you, which will alleviate the difficulties of raising a teenager.<br /><br />If you are worried that your son or daughter has already or is likely to become involved with a gang, do not wait to seek help. We have compiled an abundance of useful resources on youth gang activity.<br /><br />If the safety and well being of your teenager is at risk, do not hesitate to seek our support or professional help. Visit our website, <a href="http://www.helpyourteens.com/">Help Your Teens</a>. The consultation service is free and any parent seeking help will be accommodated. You are not alone!Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4031198492495064998.post-2108170739446567332008-08-01T06:57:00.001-07:002008-08-01T06:58:35.559-07:00Virtual RelationshipsSource: <a href="http://www.onteenstoday.com/">www.onteenstoday.com</a><br /><br />This is a post by one of our teen writers: Nate is a 16 year-old living in Los Angeles, CA and he writes his own awesome blog at Naterocks.com.<br /><br />There is a new trend rising up from the scary underworld of technology. What has long been reserved for the supreme losers of the nerd world and is now gaining more and more acceptance in the “real” world. What is this scary trend? It is something called a Virtual Relationship. A virtual relationship can be just like one in real life; the two people call each other their girlfriend or boyfriend, they can talk to each other and see each other, however there is one major catch, they have never met in person. A virtual relationship is taking the saying “Absence makes the heart grow fonder” to the extreme.<br /><br />This trend exists in the “grownup” too, but in the teen world it has become an acceptable form of dating. What is often misunderstood about virtual relationships is that the emotions evolved with one can be very similar or even completely identical to ones that take place in the “real” world. While there are many articles written about how it is not a normal relationship, many psychologists who have done research in the area claim that the relationships and friendships are indeed real.<br /><br />Another reason that virtual relationships are ridiculed by many adults is that the people in the relationship could be lying to each other and one of them could be a predator. However with the introduction of social networking sites like Facebook, doing so has become harder. Additionally, a virtual relationship may be safer than one in the “real” world because the parties involved do not often plan on meeting and there is no chance of getting mono or an STD in a virtual relationshipAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4031198492495064998.post-6249720577623291532008-07-29T12:40:00.000-07:002008-07-29T12:50:40.988-07:00STOP BULLYING NOW!<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgi_QJxPSvgYODtCyQLovEjfEW8v_csU-P5JRGV1bJ-hT-gaYpyHdnH2L2J7mmkR3IduAQqvSu5mmxPViyleCUS0qI2NHp1OLwdHAit3MF2Agkijz2Uk1rimmy7LHMJ_2_Q-5XjZ9kYaEG_/s1600-h/stopbully.gif"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5228525572451515186" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgi_QJxPSvgYODtCyQLovEjfEW8v_csU-P5JRGV1bJ-hT-gaYpyHdnH2L2J7mmkR3IduAQqvSu5mmxPViyleCUS0qI2NHp1OLwdHAit3MF2Agkijz2Uk1rimmy7LHMJ_2_Q-5XjZ9kYaEG_/s320/stopbully.gif" border="0" /></a><br /><div>So you're being bullied, huh? That can feel pretty awful. But, no matter how bad it makes you feel sometimes, you should know you're not alone. That's right ... there are plenty of kids all over the world who go through the same things you do every day. And, even though you may feel helpless sometimes, there are a lot of things you and others can do to help stop the bullying. Give these tips a try.<br /><br />Always tell an adult. It's hard to talk about serious things with adults sometimes, but they can help put a stop to bullying. Tell an adult that you trust and can talk to—your parents, your teacher, your school counselor, your coach, your neighbor. If you've told a grown-up before and they haven't done anything about it, tell someone else. And if you're afraid to tell an adult that you have been bullied, get another person—like a friend or a sister or brother—to go with you. Having someone else there to support you can make it a lot less scary. Tell the adults exactly what has happened—who did the bullying, where and when it happened, how long it's been happening to you, and how it's making you feel. If you talk with an adult at your school, ask them what they will do to help stop the bullying. It is their job to help keep you safe. Most adults really care about bullying and will do everything they can to help you. </div><div> </div><div>Learn more <a href="http://www.blogger.com/post-create.g?blogID=4031198492495064998">http://www.blogger.com/post-create.g?blogID=4031198492495064998</a></div><div> </div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4031198492495064998.post-40022480763321794302008-07-22T04:38:00.001-07:002008-07-22T04:39:37.629-07:00Parents Universal Resource Experts (Sue Scheff) Defining Gateway Drugs<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjTetstYwd86UE-0Apq2jTeE7kdmECxQd8sE7yPTs8rPGfvyKNQefVtUO4uW8iTkPwQQufv6GH0-ncw7PPdlY7Oc1IMBfpvmE1dqWK6nPTuvG04zxS06NBc5ISONNmzsEzV-oDB2xJARrMi/s1600-h/teendrugs2.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5225801557388184930" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjTetstYwd86UE-0Apq2jTeE7kdmECxQd8sE7yPTs8rPGfvyKNQefVtUO4uW8iTkPwQQufv6GH0-ncw7PPdlY7Oc1IMBfpvmE1dqWK6nPTuvG04zxS06NBc5ISONNmzsEzV-oDB2xJARrMi/s320/teendrugs2.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div>Kids today have much more societal pressure put upon them than their parents generation did, and the widespread availability of drugs like methamphetamines and the "huffing" trend (which uses common household chemicals as drugs) can turn recreational use of a relatively harmless gateway drug into a severe or fatal addiction without warning.<br /><br />The danger of gateway drugs increases in combination with many prescription medications taken by teens today. These dangerous side effects may not be addressed by your child's pediatrician if your child is legally too young to smoke cigarettes or drink alcohol. Drugs like Ritalin, Prozac, Adderrall, Strattera, Zoloft and Concerta can be very dangerous when mixed with recreational drugs and alcohol. Combining some prescription medications with other drugs can often negate the prescription drug's effectiveness, or severely increase the side effects of the drug being abused. For example, a 2004 study by Stanford University found that the active chemical in marijuana, THC, frequently acted as a mental depressant as well as a physical depressant. If your child is currently on an anti-depressant medication like Prozac or Zoloft, marijuana use can counterbalance their antidepressant effects.<br /><br />Other prescription anti depressants and anti psychotics can also become severely dangerous when mixed with alcohol. This is why is imperative that you as a parent must familiarize yourself with any prescription medications your child is taking and educate your child of the dangers of mixing their prescription drugs with other harmful drugs- even if you don't believe your child abuses drugs or alcohol.<br /><br />Marijuana - Why It is More Dangerous Than You Think<br />Parents who smoked marijuana as teenagers may see their child's drug use as a harmless rite of passage, but with so many new and dangerous designer drugs making their way into communities across the country, the potential for marijuana to become a gateway to more dangerous drugs for your child should not be taken lightly.<br /><br />Marijuana is the most commonly abused drug by both teens and adults. The drug is more commonly smoked, but can also be added to baked goods like cookies or brownies. Marijuana which is ingested orally can be far more potent than marijuana that is smoked, but like smoking tobacco, smoking marijuana can cause lung cancer, emphysema, asthma and other chronic conditions of the lungs. Just because it is "all natural" does not make it any safer for your lungs.<br /><br />Marijuana is also a depressant. This means the drug slows down the body's functions and the messages the body sends to the brain. This is why many people who are under the influence of marijuana (or "stoned") they are often sluggish or unmotivated.<br /><br />Marijuana can also have psychological side effects, both temporary and permanent. Some common psychological side effects of marijuana are paranoia, confusion, restlessness, hallucinations, panic, anxiety, detachment from reality, and nausea. While these symptoms alone do not sound all that harmful, put in the wrong situation, a teen experiencing any of these feelings may act irrationally or dangerously and can potentially harm themselves or others. In more severe cases, patients who abuse marijuana can develop severe long-term mental illnesses such as schizophrenia.<br /><br />Tobacco - Just Because It Is Legal Doesn't Mean It Is Safe<br />While cigarettes and tobacco are considered "legal", they are not legal for teens to posses or smoke until they are 18. Still, no matter the age of your child, smoking is a habit you should encourage them to avoid, whether they can smoke legally or not.<br /><br />One of the main problems with cigarettes is their addictive properties. Chemicals like nicotine are added to tobacco to keep the smoker's body craving more, thus insuring customer loyalty. This is extremely dangerous to the smoker, however, as smoking has repeatedly proven to cause a host of ailments, including lung cancer, emphysema, chronic bronchitis or bronchial infection, asthma and mouth cancer- just to name a few.<br /><br />In addition to nicotine, cigarettes contain over 4000 other chemicals, including formaldehyde (a poisonous compound used in some nail polishes and to preserve corpses), acetone (used in nail polish remover to dissolve paint) carbon monoxide (responsible for between 5000 to 6000 deaths annually in its "pure" form), arsenic (found in rat poison), tar (found on paved highways and roads), and hydrogen cyanide (used to kill prisoners sentenced to death in "gas chambers").<br /><br />Cigarettes can also prematurely age you, causing wrinkles and dull skin, and can severely decay and stain teeth.<br /><br />A new trend in cigarette smoke among young people are "bidi's", Indian cigarettes that are flavored to taste like chocolate, strawberry, mango and other sweets. Bidi's are extremely popular with teens as young as 12 and 13. Their sweet flavors and packaging may lead parents to believe that they aren't "real" cigarettes or as dangerous as brand-name cigarettes, but in many cases bidi's can be worse than brand name cigarettes, because teens become so enamored with the flavor they ingest more smoke than they might with a name brand cigarette.<br /><br />Another tobacco trend is "hookah's" or hookah bars. A hookah is an ornate silver or glass water pipe with a fabric hoses or hoses used to ingest smoke. Hookahs are popular because many smokers can share one hookah at the same time. However, despite this indirect method of ingesting tobacco smoke through a hose, hookah smoking is just as dangerous as cigarette smoke.<br /><br />The Sobering Effects of Alcohol on Your Teen<br />Alcohol is another substance many parents don't think they need to worry about. Many believe that because they don't have alcohol at home or kept their alcohol locked up, their teens have no access to it, and stores or bars will not sell to minors. Unfortunately, this is not true. A recent study showed that approximately two-thirds of all teens who admitted to drinking alcohol said they were able to purchase alcohol themselves. Teens can also get alcohol from friends with parents who do not keep alcohol locked up or who may even provide alcohol to their children.<br /><br />Alcohol is a substance that many parents also may feel conflicted about. Because purchasing and consuming alcohol is legal for most parents, some parents may not deem it harmful. Some parents believe that allowing their teen to drink while supervised by an adult is a safer alternative than "forcing" their teen to obtain alcohol illegally and drinking it unsupervised. In theory, this does sound logical, but even under adult supervision alcohol consumption is extremely dangerous for growing teens. Dr. John Nelson of the American Medical Association recently testified that even light alcohol consumption in late childhood and adolescence can cause permanent brain damage in teens. Alcohol use in teens is also linked with increased depression, ADD, reduced memory and poor academic performance.<br /><br />In combination with some common anti-psychotics and anti-depressants, the effects of just one 4 oz glass of wine can be akin to that of multiple glasses, causing the user to become intoxicated much faster than someone not on anti depressants. Furthermore, because of the depressant nature of alcohol, alcohol consumption by patients treated with anti-depressants can actually counteract the anti-depressant effect and cause the patient sudden overwhelming depression while the alcohol is in their bloodstream. This low can continue to plague the patient long after the alcohol has left their system.<br /><br />Because there are so many different types of alcoholic beverage with varying alcohol concentration, it is often difficult for even of-age drinkers to gauge how much is "too much". For an inexperienced teen, the consequences can be deadly. Binge drinking has made headlines recently due to cases of alcohol poisoning leading to the death of several college students across the nation. But binge drinking isn't restricted to college students. Recent studies have shown teens as young as 13 have begun binge drinking, which can cause both irreparable brain and liver damage.<br /><br />It is a fact that most teenage deaths are associated with alcohol, and approximately 6000 teens die each year in alcohol related automobile accidents. Indirectly, alcohol consumption can severely alter teens' judgment, leaving them vulnerable to try riskier behaviors like reckless stunts, drugs, or violent behavior. Alcohol and other drugs also slow response time, leaving teenage girls especially in danger of sexual assault. The temporary feeling of being uninhibited can also have damaging future consequences. With the popularity of internet sites like MySpace and Facebook, teens around the country are finding embarrassing and indecent photos of themselves surfacing online. Many of these pictures were taken while the subjects were just joking around, but some were taken while the subjects were drunk or under the influence of drugs. These photos are often incredibly difficult to remove, and can have life altering consequences. Many employers and colleges are now checking networking sites for any reference to potential employees and students, and using them as a basis to accept or decline applicants! </div><div> </div><div>www.helpyourteens.com</div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4031198492495064998.post-52733043658211786242008-07-20T07:07:00.001-07:002008-07-20T07:09:00.352-07:00Teens - National Crime Prevention Council<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgtnexw0wPRrXAxRsLBpMFBtwmDd5Thh367Y3SA33ijxKmhnOwCzE7Eg2sCfZ4bjMVe8mRQM-P-jO1tstnCNAWNu3jyBIASqhFPd7yaM_O7cE3vQ7Dshi1dVCoJUVxvn8ic52u33pcoI410/s1600-h/ncp.gif"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5225097710398218946" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgtnexw0wPRrXAxRsLBpMFBtwmDd5Thh367Y3SA33ijxKmhnOwCzE7Eg2sCfZ4bjMVe8mRQM-P-jO1tstnCNAWNu3jyBIASqhFPd7yaM_O7cE3vQ7Dshi1dVCoJUVxvn8ic52u33pcoI410/s200/ncp.gif" border="0" /></a><br /><div>Growing up in the 21st century provides young people with amazing opportunities. We have access to incredible technology that allows us to communicate instantaneously through email and cell phones. We are the healthiest, best-educated generation in history. We volunteer at an even higher rate than adults do. The level of crime that we face is lower than it has been in 30 years. However, crime rates are still too high. The good news is that there are real things we can do about the problems that plague our communities. </div><br /><div></div><br /><div><a href="http://www.ncpc.org/programs/tcc/Community_Works_.php">Community Works</a> offers us a way to do something about crime and violence. When we participate in the Community Works curriculum, we can work with our friends, other young people, and adult leaders to learn the facts about crime and violence, how we can help prevent crimes, and how we can become involved in service-learning projects that benefit our community. </div><div> </div><div>Visit: <a href="http://www.ncpc.org/topics/by-audience/teens">http://www.ncpc.org/topics/by-audience/teens</a></div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4031198492495064998.post-85040478286356792482008-07-07T05:55:00.000-07:002008-07-07T05:57:36.467-07:00Parents Universal Resource Experts: Learn More About Social Workers<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiNynkq20s_qe6B5HZ2rnSpfLHYpD9O8A9elJ_hvp-URhf6O1q3lvZd0rC5AZlrNJQRZykx4358GIMfkkuoRVg-PSW-gQxw9FIHNJJZLymwhyphenhyphenO1janKGZp9jpTqNy8ibvXywxsfs0O-_jcr/s1600-h/socialworkers.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5220255401514599954" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiNynkq20s_qe6B5HZ2rnSpfLHYpD9O8A9elJ_hvp-URhf6O1q3lvZd0rC5AZlrNJQRZykx4358GIMfkkuoRVg-PSW-gQxw9FIHNJJZLymwhyphenhyphenO1janKGZp9jpTqNy8ibvXywxsfs0O-_jcr/s200/socialworkers.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><p>Every social worker is uniquely qualified to help people right in their own environment, by looking at all the different aspects of their life and culture. We work to ensure your personal well-being, prevent crises and to counsel individuals, families, and communities. We make sure people get the help they need, from the best resources available. And for more than 100 years, we’ve been doing just that.</p><br /><p>Visit: <a href="http://www.helpstartshere.org/about_social_workers.html">http://www.helpstartshere.org/about_social_workers.html</a> </p><br /><p></p>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4031198492495064998.post-32262240321980201642008-06-29T06:37:00.000-07:002008-06-29T06:38:52.279-07:00Parents Universal Reource Experts (Sue Scheff) Teen and Youth GangLearn more about<strong><a href="http://suescheff.info/"> Teen and Youth Gangs</a></strong>. Parents need to keep informed on today's teens and the peer pressure they can endure.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4031198492495064998.post-70095253592446409422008-06-17T11:49:00.000-07:002008-06-17T11:50:55.387-07:00Sue Scheff: Parents Preventing Drug Abuse<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEisVbNTcjY7PGstLmtwruBg_ZICBU4S4YIIb-3I4fRMRW4iG7emjpLWnCcDP4UlepN36vTuo1AYqtQncAEJI-SRUmxN8Al8kB7ldV4GVFxQyzCXKswm6MGKM0-xU7CH80LP_EPKrMr4qmm-/s1600-h/teendruguse.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5212924700550356226" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEisVbNTcjY7PGstLmtwruBg_ZICBU4S4YIIb-3I4fRMRW4iG7emjpLWnCcDP4UlepN36vTuo1AYqtQncAEJI-SRUmxN8Al8kB7ldV4GVFxQyzCXKswm6MGKM0-xU7CH80LP_EPKrMr4qmm-/s200/teendruguse.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div><strong>A Parent's Guide to Gateway Drugs</strong></div><br /><div><br />A gateway drug is a drug that opens the metaphorical gateway to more potent, dangerous drugs. Substances like alcohol, cigarettes and marijuana are considered gateway drugs. While many parents are tempted to say "it's only beer" or "its just pot", the danger in gateway drugs is their ability to convince the user that they can handle larger quantities or in many cases, stronger, more potent substances.<br /><a href="http://susanscheff.org/">Click here for more information.</a></div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.com0